Make a Goal, Not a Resolution
The New Year is usually a time for Resolutions. But I want to take a minute to help change your mindset and do away with that word because I believe “resolution” sets us up for an uphill battle. After all, only 8% of resolutions are kept.
I’m about to get nerdy on you.
Let’s look at the meaning of the word:
Resolution: rez-uh-loo-shuh n
a formal expression of opinion or intention made, the act of determining upon an action or course of action, a firmness of purpose.
But Let’s break down the word into parts in order to gain a clearer understanding:
a prefix, occurring originally in loanwords from Latin, used with the meaning “again” or “again and again” to indicate repetition, or with the meaning “back” or “backward” to indicate withdrawal or backward motion.
Solution: suh-loo-shuh n
the act of solving a problem, question, etc.
Thus, resolution really means:
The act of solving a problem again, repeatedly, etc.
To accept a resolution as an appropriate proclamation of New Year’s intention is to also accept that a)there is something wrong with you and b)you’ve tried to solve this problem before.
No matter what you would like to change about yourself or your life, there is nothing wrong with you.
A resolution is usually born out of negative self talk. I don't want to be this. I hate this about myself.
We get so distracted by and focused on unbecoming the things we don’t want to be that we forget to focus on becoming the things we actually want to be.
Sometimes, we can’t even answer that question.
A Goal is an Affirmation.
Creating a goal and working toward it is an affirmation that you are capable of achieving this goal, that you are worth the effort, and that you deserve the outcome of that effort.
You must say to yourself, not only that you can do this but, that you deserve it!
Instead of resolving to be less messy, make a goal to be more organized.
Instead of resolving to take fewer naps, make a goal to get more and better sleep at night.
Instead of resolving to lose weight, make a goal to get fit by keeping weekly workouts.
Invariably resolutions focus on ending, minimizing and restriction, but a goal focuses on a beginning, expansion, and growth.
And that is something to get excited about.
Happy New Year.